About Aunty

Aunty is a new senior citizen and loving this phase of her life. Less responsibilities, less fear of being weird, able to do more of the things that I want to do! Older, yes, slower, yes, but life is even more wonderful in my golden years and I look forward to even goldener ones.

Tap tap tap to feel good

Happy feetDecades ago, Aunty took tap dance lessons from Jack Cione with pal Cookie and Gayln.  It was fun making feet noise in time with other feet in the room, but it wasn’t a life passion for any of us.

During a tidying session (still to come: Aunty’s review of Marie Kondo’s Life Changing Magic of Tidying), Aunty found 2 thick print outs of Jack Cione’s dance steps and songs.  These did bring a sense of joy because of the memories – though not sure whether to toss or keep, yet.

Then, serendipitously (fortunate chance), an email link about tapping for health came into Aunty’s email box this morning.  It was like a sign to pay attention, doodoodoodoo doodoodoo (theme from Twilight Zone).

Tapping is part of the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) that Aunty had heard about and was curious as to its success and results.  Instead of tapping with clinking shoes, one taps gently on specific points on the body with fingertips.  It seemed like a God/Universe given gift, so Aunty opened up the link and tried it.

Just like Mikey in the Life Cereal commercial (if you are old enough to remember), Aunty liked it!  Ups to you if you want to try it – this first link explains the different point to tap: http://thetappingsolution.com/2016tws/how-to-tap-video.html

And this one will guide you through a 20 minute exercise to tap away stress/fears and begin a great day: http://www.thetappingsolution.com/2016event/R00Ms/D1-MR-3654.php  [Update: this was only available for 24 hours – so solly.  The Tapping World Summit event is going on for the next 10 (and counting down) days and events can be listened to for free during a 24 hour period, daily.  So, once one presentation is up, it then goes away and the next day’s event is up, then away – UNLESS one buys the packages.  Aunty is not planning to buy the packages but perhaps will continue tapping and adjusting the affirmations/confirmations/etc. specific to her own situations.]

[Further update:  Although the packages are available for purchase for those who want permanent access to the Tapping World Summit 2016, Aunty feels that these are good folks because of the limited sharing of some rather excellent material – limited because of the 24 hour FREE online access for each day’s events.  Here is a list of the upcoming topics and speakers: http://thetappingsolution.com/2016tws/schedule.html which included Jack Canfield (pau already, solly), but some rather excellent subjects such as healing relationships with mother on March 1, Tapping for self confidence on February 29, Personal peace procedure on March 3, etc.  Aunty plans to “attend” some of those freebies and has to write the days down on her calendar in order not to miss them. Here is the link to access each live daily (available for 24 hours) event: http://www.thetappingsolution.com/2016event/live.php – hope this helps everyone!]

It is quite pleasant, something that is free to do, and in line with socks being magic in Aunty’s quest for excellent health and well being.  There are other links to different tapping modes but for now Aunty felt very good about this starter tapping exercise and is now motivated to gather all the books in the house in one big pile and sort with Marie Kondo’s criteria of joy.  Aunty’s fear of having a clutter-free house is soon to be conquered.

Happy feet, tapping fingers, clean house.  Sounds quite wonderful, doesn’t it?

 

No get huhu

angrybirdYou know the feeling – getting huhu is when you get all mad and ticked off.  One of Aunty’s jobs is answering the phone, like a dispatcher or receptionist.  Most people are nice – especially sales people until you inform them that you aren’t interested in claiming your millions of dollars from the Reader’s Digest sweepstakes.

Some people are quite rude because they only want to speak with the boss instead of the receptionist.  Aunty usually bites her lip and holds back.   However, during her peak menopausal days of hormone changes and self-righteousness, Aunty was guilty of snapping at them and losing customers.  Ho! da terrible, yeah?  Maybe so, but it felt good at the time.

On the other side of the counter, back in the day when Aunty was a youngster, going into stores like Carol and Mary or McInerny’s (you remember them?) was like entering a freezer – the cold shoulder, the degrading looks, the down their nose attitude because their radars could tell that Aunty didn’t have money.

So Aunty would feel huhu, as well as hurt.  Not good – snapping back at rude people or getting mad and shame because of rude salespeople.  All water under the bridge, as they say, but still, those experiences left some scars and regrets.

Solution

Each work day, Aunty gets an email from Paul Tamashiro’s Daily Market Update.  Aunty subscribes to his free email service because he sends out the most current mortgage rates for 15 year/30 year/Jumbo/VA, etc. loans as well as an interesting article related to real estate and/or the economy.  He also provides some pretty wonderful quotes from known and unknown sources.

One of today’s quotes (from an anonymous source) was:

“When someone is nasty or treats you poorly, don’t take it personally. It says nothing about you and a lot about them.”

Oh man!  Is that a good one, or is that a good one!?!

Mahalo to Paul, who can be reached at paul.tamashiro@guaranteedrate.com.  Aunty never met or spoke with him, but would bet that he is a nice person.

 

Wanna Roomba?

Hide and Seek?

Hide and Seek?

Aunty Mimi got a Roomba from Costco.  Pal Cookie also got a Roomba from Costco around Christmas time with a $50 off coupon special.

Big deal – how good can it be, right?

Well, according to them, it is wonderful.  Their floors are always clean.  The little feeler whisker spinners clean  around table legs and furniture.  It is cute and goes back to its “dock” when it needs to recharge.  It just keeps on working and it transitions over rugs, hard floors, and can sense and avoid stairway drops.  Blah blah blah blah, Aunty kept hearing it over and over in her head and then decided to get one from Costco.com ($359 + $17.32 tax + $17.52 shipping) because it was not available at the Hawaii Kai Costco last week.

Aunty was able to redeem several Costco cash cards while ordering online, so the final cost was quite low.

It arrived today via UPS, and Aunty read the easy startup instructions, plugged in the docking station and the Roomba beeped and rocked into its charging/resting place.  Instructions said to charge overnight but as soon as the battery light on the Roomba was green, Aunty pressed “CLEAN” and the Roomba took off.

It is almost like having your own R2D2 or that other robot in Star Wars, except that the Roomba is really short, works non-stop, and looks like a flat sided flying saucer.  It was fascinating to watch as it would gently bump into stuff (Aunty has a lot of stuff) and then try again from a different angle, then take off in a seemingly random pattern.  When it would get stuck, a woman’s voice would say, “error 5, clean side wheels” or something like that.

Turning it upside down like a big turtle exposed the dust bin, which got full quite quickly.  It took a while to figure out how to remove, open, and clear the bin, but after the 2nd time, Aunty was a pro.  Right side up and bin back in place, Roomba was ready to rock and roll again.

Aunty became it’s assistant, moving chairs, boxes, rubbish cans, bags, etc. out of its way so that it could go where no vacuum went before.  Because it was so short (about 4″) it could go under shelves, couches and beds, Oh My! and Aunty would follow it around on arms and knees to watch joyfully as it sucked up old dust and debris in hard to reach and see places.

Aunty’s bed became the depository that held a lot of the piles of stuff on the bedroom floor – making it a must-do-something crisis later this evening.  Not to worry, Aunty can handle or will just pile the stuff back on the floor  again before sleep time, the same for all the stuff that was piled on couches and chairs in the parlor.

Cleaning became like a tag team and even though it was a bit of a physical workout moving things around so that Roomba could pass and clean, it was fun and so worth doing.  As Roomba began to deplete battery power, “Dock” would flash.  Aunty gently carried it to the room where the docking station was plugged in (under the couch), did a final cleaning of the dust bin, filter, and brushes, and then pressed “Dock” as Roomba slowly sashayed and rocked into place for recharging, with a little tone beeping melody.

According to the manual, Roomba would have gone back to the charging station automatically when it needed to, but Aunty wanted to help it home.

Aunty is usually not demonstrative in showing affection, but after the initial cleaning session with Roomba, Aunty had to say, “I love you, Roomba!”  I really do.

 

Answer the question, please.

2015 Miss UniverseThere was drama of the highest OOPS! factor during the 2015 Miss Universe pageant with Miss Columbia being first tapped, then untapped as the winner, and Steve Harvey becoming the biggest blunder man on the planet.

Aunty used to watch these pageants in the past, but stopped watching decades ago.  It happened after an episode in which each contestant was asked the same question.  Each of them took a breath, breezed through their answers, were greeted with applause and cheers as they smiled, waved and glided back to their places in line.

The contestants were all beautiful, poised and had the same fixed smiles on their perfect faces.  If based on looks in their gowns or bathing suits, each of them was qualified to be the winner.  The revealing of their quality of thinking was in the question and answer portion of the competition.

That year, the question that was asked to each of them was, “If you could have anything that you wanted for yourself, what would it be?”

Without fail, every one of them answered perfectly.  “World peace.”

It drove Aunty batty.  You see, it wasn’t that their answer was wrong.  It was that they did not listen to the question being asked, and instead gave an answer that was incomplete, lacking thought, and impersonal.

A destination

That simple sounding question is one that requires a lot of soul searching, and complete honesty.  The answer is one asking for our individual selfish desires – if you could have anything that you wanted for yourself.

It is one that can be broken down into different timelines – today, this week, this month, this year, the next 5 years, a lifetime.

It can cover one or several categories – food, health, wealth, happiness, status, relationships, living arrangements, career choices, etc.

It is a question asking about your dreams and goals, your aspirations, your destiny.

Quiet place, deep thoughts

It is not a spur of the moment question for beauty queens vying for the Miss Universe title.  If they were completely honest and paid attention to what was being asked, each of their answers would be, “To win the crown.”  An answer that might paint them as shallow shells of beauty, but at least they were telling the truth.

It was a question that haunted Aunty for a long time (during her pre-Aunty days).   What if Aunty were put on the spot, and the winner got what they wanted.

This was before Aunty started going to investment seminars, self improvement courses, subscriptions to newsletters, or picking up books on life skills, success, etc.  The first task required from those gurus, authors, and mentors is to identify and define your goals in order to design your life’s roadmap to a targeted destination.

“If I could have anything I wanted for myself, what would it be?”

Aunty Batty

Doesn’t that have a nice ring to it?  Sort of like Betty but just a smidgeon off.

One day, out of nowhere, the answer to that irritatingly haunting question came, like a bat (heh heh, sorry) from who knows where.  It is wildly unrealistic and improbable, it has been frustratingly non-existent in my hands during trying times, the ramifications of it may be troubling, but still, it is Aunty Batty’s answer.  Final answer and still holding true.

It would be to have the touch of healing.

Amen

What about you?  If you could have anything you wanted for yourself, what would it be?

All answers are acceptable, crowns included.

 

 

Make like a tree and ….

Aunty received an email from Nick of The Sacred Science team (no – not Scientology or wizard stuff) and it quoted Rumi.  Rumi was a 13th century Persian poet, scholar and mystic.  One beautiful quote attributed to him is “Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.

Another less beautiful but very wise quote is “Make like a tree and let the dead leaves drop.

Nick’s January 7 blog post was about carrying around emotional and/or physical baggage that drag us down and prevent us from getting better, stronger, or more capable of moving forward.  His suggestion was to have a fire ceremony to get rid of our bad stuff, our dead leaves.  This will allow new growth without our past and present hindrances.

He suggests:

  • Cut 10 strips of paper to write on – the thinner the paper the better.  On each strip, write down a memory, habit, fear, or thought that is bothering you or something that you realize you need to let go because it is harmful or limiting you in your life.  Use a pen for this exercise.
  • Light a small fire – it can be a fireplace (in Hawaii, a hibachi would work).  Please be safe.
  • One by one, read aloud each word on each strip of paper.  Intensity of emotion is good – this is the junk stuff that we want out of our life.
  • After you read each note, hold it over the flame and say “It is time for us to part ways. Goodbye.” Exhale as each piece of paper ignites and disappears.

According to Nick, this has helped him create an inner shift within himself and has been used for centuries by others to assist in healing of spiritual and physical wounds, as well as helping to unblock our inner traffic jams.

Aunty has plenty of traffic jams.  This is the start of a new year, and Aunty has yet to sit down to reflect and write down goals or resolutions.  One that would be foremost on that list would be getting rid of clutter and physical excesses in every room and closet.  Marie Kondo’s “The life-changing magic of tidying up” is helping (and will be in a future post).

Perhaps having the fire ceremony with one of the strips being “fear of getting rid of things that I don’t use because I might need it one of these days” will help speed along the process.

Perhaps writing down Aunty’s other negative thoughts and emotions that have been pushed far back and away will bring it unwelcomingly to light, so that they can be released and removed upon burning and bidding them farewell.

Aunty will be doing this soon, when nobody is in earshot (or the neighbors might think that Aunty is batty).

Perhaps Aunty will then Make like a tree and leaf, anew.

 

Letter to Mr. President

2016-01-03_10-06-27There was a motorcade on 6th Avenue yesterday, several police cars, an ambulance, swat team and black SUVs.  Daughter #2 exclaimed, “It’s Obama!!” and we waved as they passed us and we spotted President Obama in one of the SUVs as it zoomed by.  This was very exciting and the closest that Aunty has ever been to a President.

Well, actually, Aunty did get to shake hands with George W. Bush in a dream at the height of his terrible reign at a black tie event that never took place.  It was a strange dream that left feelings of confusion and befuddlement – with a sense of weary resignation.

Aunty has usually voted for Democrats, though occasionally for Republicans that are independent thinkers and problem solvers such as Ross Perot and Ron Paul.  Unfortunately, these men do not fare well in the elections.  After the blunderful bid of John McCain and his VP pick of Sarah Palin, hope emerged in the youthful vigor of Obama and YES! We can.

The eve of Barack Obama’s victory was wondrous.  His inauguration was magical, as was his dance with his wife to “At Last” sung by Beyonce.

Each year, he and his family would come home to Hawaii for the holidays.  His term as President is almost over.  His head of hair is almost all white.  The responsibility of the nation weighs heavy on his strong shoulders.

IF Aunty could sit and talk story with the first island son that became the leader of the USA, and IF Aunty’s words were taken to heart, this is what Aunty would have to say:

“Dear Mr. President,

Thank you for the exhilaration of hope you gave to us and for being our leader.  I wished you could have kicked butt a bit more, but thank you also for holding back with class.

I am a list-type person and know that you are busy so please consider these as potential solutions and suggestions from an older woman who loves America and Hawaii.

  • Term limits for Senators, Representatives.  No more fat cats, secret deals and power issues.
  • Privatize some aspects of the government, i.e. the education of our children.  Start with Hawaii because our DOE is ineffective, administrative heavy, and our public school kids are not receiving an education that nurtures or provides for independent thinkers, movers, or shakers.
  • Have a round table of idea people that are ordinary citizens that can bring workable solutions and suggestions to light.  You can ask Aunty to be on board (ahem, this is a blatant self promotion, solly).
  • All bills limited to one page.  Easy to read, quick to vote on, easy to understand, no hidden agendas and compromises buried in mounds of jargon.
  • Spend as needed rather than let a budget dictate who gets what.  If you give a spoiled child a billion dollars every year, it will all get spent just to make sure that spoiled brat gets a billion dollars next year.  Hire a sharp money person to oversee and approve spending.
  • Allow individuals or corporations to donate to the Treasury on their tax returns.  This donation could be used to offset their income, which would lessen their tax burden.  These donations could be specific to a department of the government, i.e. USPS, Social Security, Welfare, Defense, etc.  This might turn out to be a win-win for the tax payer, for tax coffers, and also act as a warm and fuzzy.

If you see Governor Ige, please pass this list along to him.  He is a good man who has also inherited a lot of baggage that bogs him down.  I have an earful for him about our public schools.  At the top of the list is one requiring that all elected and/or appointed officials, State employees (especially teachers and administrators), and members of the Board of Education send their precious children to public schools in their district.  They need to have some skin in the game before we get any meaningful improvement in learning conditions around the State.

Thank you for being present and caring.  Welcome home, we are so proud of you.

With aloha,

Honolulu Aunty”

Ozoni recipe – first food in the New Year

IMG_0867Aunty does not do traditions very well, but one that is done because it is a favorite is Ozoni – soup with mizuna and mochi.  Aunty likes the simple simple kind of ozoni that her mother used to make for the family.  Other families have awesome ozoni made with fishcake, daikon, gobo, carrots, and a lot more.  For Aunty, simple is better for Aunty to remember.

However, since it is made only at New Year’s, 364 days go by and Aunty forgets what to do.  This post is one for Aunty to refer to, gomennasai (solly).

 

 

Ingredients are:

mochi

mizuna

dried shrimp or scallops

chicken broth

shiitake mushrooms

hondashi

 

Soak the dried shiitake mushrooms in water until soft.  Then cut in half.  Cut mizuna bunches into 2 inch lengths.

Meanwhile, boil 2 cups of water with dried scallops or shrimp.  Add mushrooms, chicken broth and simmer.  Add hondashi to taste (you could substitute with instant ramen seasoning).  Add cut mizuna.

If you have fresh mochi, add to bowl and pour soup over.  If mochi is hard or frozen, boil in a separate small pot to soften.  Cooking the mochi in the pot will make the broth cloudy.

Please eat hardy and have good thoughts of the wonderful new year ahead of us all!

 

The best part about Christmas

charlie brownWhen Aunty was a youngster, Christmas was magical, Santa was real, and the best part of it was opening presents on Christmas morning.

Now that Aunty is an oldster, Christmas is traffic and madness, Santa looks different, and presents are opened early so they can be returned before the after Christmas rush.  Bah! Humbug!

Well, actually, there are some things to look forward to besides the yule tide songs and the smell of pine trees that only show up at Christmas time.  Icicle lights, foot controls, and electric timers.

 

Icicle lights

celingThese are so lovely.  We used to hang the green wire ones on the low branches of our plumeria tree (before Aunty had her tree trimmers make the trees bolohead) and our front yard would be festive and lit up enough to hibachi during the evenings, all year long.

They are on Aunty’s ceiling in her craft room.  They go on at dusk and off at midnight.  They add more than 50% of light to the room and when they do burn out, Aunty would have to wait until the shopping days that follow Thanksgiving to find them in the stores again.  They are so lovely – hanging like branches of crystal sparkles with a nice warm glow.

Recently, Aunty hung them on the ceiling just above a desk against the wall because a desk lamp would take up too much space.   Cup hooks were used in the ceiling, the icicle strand was doubled up, and then are connected to an extension cord that has an on/off toggle switch for convenience.

Foot controls

foot switchThese are used for Christmas tree lights but Aunty uses them for the electric motor attached to her pasta machine.  The pasta machine is used for conditioning and blending polymer clay (Aunty’s current favorite medium).  The pasta machine motors have an on/off switch on them that is a bit of a hassle when trying to fold and feed a sheet of clay repeatedly into the machine with 2 hands.  The foot control extension plugs into the electric motor’s cord and outlet and the foot button is on the floor so that a flick of Aunty’s foot will turn the machine on or off as desired.

 

Electric timers

Actually, timers are available all year long.  Aunty uses them for her hobby room icicle lights to go on automatically at dusk and off at midnight, as well as a parlor lamp that lights up the dark corner of the room every night.  These plug into the outlet and the electrical cord of the lights plug into the timer.  They used to tick tick tick all day and all night.  Tick tick tick, tick tick tick.  Kind of irritating but they were doing a good job.

However, this year, Aunty found digital timers in the Christmas section at Lowes!  They do the same thing, take up less space, and they are silent, silent, silent!  It took Aunty more than a couple of tries to get them working with the on and off times, but once they were set, it was wonderful!  These also have a battery that maintains the time in case of a power outage or if the plug is unplugged.

Bah, hum bug, and yet…

Christmas is still magical.  It is a time of eating too much, raising stress levels, and feeling frazzled balanced with charming little reminders of the season such as a homeless panhandler wearing a Santa hat or reindeer ears on the windows of a honking big SUV.

It is a time when people greet strangers with “Merry Christmas!” and we all feel much more generous and giving.

It is a special time of the year, and Aunty has stocked up on enough boxes of icicle lights to last her at least 20 more years.

Happy Holidays, mahalo for being a reader, and may all your Christmas and non-Christmas wishes come true!

Raise.com = Shopping nirvana

Raise!!!!Update added at end of this article.

Ever since Aunty turned 55 almost a decade ago, Tuesdays at Ross Dress for Less became her favorite shopping excursion because they gave 10% off to seniors.

Pal Jim turned Aunty on to Cardpool.com and Aunty could buy Ross (and other) gift cards at 20% savings.  However, over time, Cardpool offered less and less of a discount, and recently Ross cards, if available, were at a 13% savings, which is still a good deal, especially when shopping on Tuesdays and also getting the senior 10% discount.

Then, just last week, hanabata days (from kid time) pal Cookie said, “Eh, you heard of Raise.com?”  Pal Cookie is a shopping guru on steroids.  She knows everything about everywhere and finds the best bargains and products all over the place.

“Better than Cardpool.com?” Aunty asked.  “Go look”, she said, and Aunty did.

OMG – better than Cardpool.com because the discounts are higher and there are more retails stores in the offerings.  Aunty just purchased her Ross gift card at 18% savings – woohoo!  When it arrives in the mail, Aunty is going shopping at Ross’ on Tuesday with a 28% (18% + 10%) discount pass in hand!

It is also a site to search and search because discounts vary for each establishment depending on the dollar value as well as the day of the week.  According to Cookie, Fridays are good bonus days to buy cards because they sometimes have an additional 5% discount thrown in the mix!  They also run “specials” which can be easily found on the left of the menu.

On top of that (this is killing Aunty because it just keeps getting better and better!), Raise.com offers $5 credit to referred newbies after the first purchase – one credit to the newbie and one credit to the referrer!

When you sign up, you will get a user name that is made up of the first letter of your first name and the rest of it with your last name.  (hint:  if you want a custom user name, put a first letter in the first name line and the rest of the name in the last name line.  Example, “aunty” was entered as “a” in the first name line and “unty” in the last name line.  You can then change your name in your profile afterwards, but you will not be able to change your user name – ever.  Another example, if you want “jalna” as your user name, enter “j” as your first name and “alna” as your last name.  Change your first and last name after you complete sign up.)

After you get signed up, then you can refer people to sign up with emails, facebook, etc.  When they come to the section of referral code, they enter your user name (like “aunty”, ahem) , and BAM! you get $5 and they get $5.  Reminds Aunty of Paypal when it first started years ago.  Rewards for referring people to join earned both parties $5.  Then, Paypal got so huge and popular, it didn’t need referrals anymore.

Even if Raise.com didn’t give referral credits of $5, Aunty still thinks it is a great place to acquire discounts from favorite stores such as Whole Foods, Apple Store, Taco Bell, oh my!  This is going to be delicious dangerous research into forced shopping due to purchased savings.

Much mahalo to Pal Cookie for her great tip and helping Aunty to spend money.  To shop is human, to share discounts is divine.

*Update, update!!!  Aunty was very pleased with her new Ross gift card and was going to shop with it.  However, something told Aunty to check the card first.  These cards come from somebody else – someone who is selling their card.  

On the back of the gift card is a toll free number to Ross’ balance inquiry customer service line: 1-800-798-4055.  Aunty followed the prompts, then put in the gift card number followed by the # key.  Blip blurp oh oh, Aunty was informed that this card account was closed.  Closed?  Yikes?!!

So then, Aunty called the Raise Member Services number: 888-578-8422 and waited for an available customer representative.  After a few minutes, Aunty got Bryce – a very nice young man who apologized and informed Aunty that sometimes cards are invalid for various reasons.  Raise.com has a 100 day money back guarantee (so check or use your cards quickly, fellow shoppers!) and the refund process was begun.  Phew!

Will Aunty use Raise.com again?  You betcha!  Aunty was impressed with Bryce’s niceness (Bryce, nice, get it? heh heh heh) and also the money back guarantee.  Aunty’s shopping excursion to Ross’ will have to wait for another Tuesday in the near future.  Perhaps that is a good way to save money, sort of.