Who are you?

Several posts ago I wrote about a statement I came across by Shelly Wilson. “I am a spiritual being having a human life experience.”

It is a really really hard concept to get because it feels like I am a human being that has spiritual insights, rather than vice versa. And being human really limits what I can do. It also boggles my mind and would take the biggest leap of faith to live as if I were a spiritual being and observe my human behavior and quirks as an experience rather than reality.

However, my friends and family know that I am weird and I subscribe to all kinds of financial, self improvement, health and well being sites. Some very conventional and useful, i.e. cooking with Nagi from recipetineats.com, some controversial, many blog sites of friends and friends of friends. Some are naturopathic, some are strange.

Today, I got an email from Nick Polizzi of Sacred Science about a video series called Inner Alchemy. As a teaser, we get 3 parts for free. The 1st part was the question, “Who Am I?” It is a short 7 minute video with Nick talking about that query. The assignment is to take a few minutes and write down our own answers.

I liked the exercise. Maybe you will too. And that’s my post for today.

What is YOUR Calling?

Lani KwonAunty went to a HiMa (Hawaii Internet Marketing) meeting this week.  Aunty joined a few months ago – not sure why since Aunty is a non-techie, non geekie, non-social media type – but the folks that run it are super nice and they always have pizza and water, and interesting subject matter.

The recent meeting was about finding our life’s purpose.  What a big topic – but, what the hey, if anything, there would be pizza, right?

The guest speaker was Lani Kwon, a life coach, mother, speaker, and transformer.  After a few minutes of intro, tidbits and pleasant stories, the nitty gritty happened when we started filling out some worksheets.

The first question was, “What would you do if anything were possible?”  Sounds simple enough, but take a few minutes and ask that question of yourself.  Anything.  Nothing holding you back, the sky and beyond, no limits.  You have a free pass to life’s candy store.

We were then walked through a series of questions about what holds us back, what keeps us stuck, what we need, visualization, solutions, action planning.  The last step of the night was signing a contract with ourselves.  A very simple contract.  Commitment.

W.H. Murray wrote about commitment in “The Story of Everest”.  The moment one defiantly commits oneself, then providence moves too.  It is very powerful.

The next step

One’s life purpose(s) can seem very selfish because it is personally fulfilling.  However, there is nothing wrong with figuring out what we want and then getting it, unless it is harmful to others.

Perhaps it is time for Aunty to finish up tidying, turn off Korean dramas, put away excuses, and dive in and commit to her life purposes.

Lani Kwon has tickled the tiger (actually, Aunty is a dragon).  Awakening the dragon, hmmm.  To quote German writer and statesman Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, “Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it.  Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.”

Please sit down and take some time to figure out your life purpose.  Please share, if you are willing.

 

3 Magic Words

Bibidibobidiboo!Aunty just recently subscribed to Bug Free Mind’s free trial offer – 5 chapters of the program and access to their website (after registering and logging in).   Aunty also joined as an affiliate to the program – just in case this really is what it promises to be.  A review of the program will be forthcoming, but it really does seem to be mind set changing – the first change necessary for any improvement in our lives.  Rich Dad Robert Kiyosaki preaches this all the time, and his Cash Flow game changes one’s mindset from stuck in the rat race to unlimited passive beautiful income.

An article in the Bug Free Mind website was entitled “3 Magic Words that Eliminate Stress Immediately!”

Hmmm.  What could those be?  “You won $1,000,000” would work for Aunty.  “Honey, I’m home!” used to work long ago in the honeymoon phase of marriage.  “Just go shopping” was an action that used to work wonders.

Well, according to the article, those 3 magic words are, “Accept what is.”   Hmmm.   Accept what is.

It almost sounds too simple, but on further reflection, they are words of wisdom and really can relieve stress.  Try it out on a situation in your life that creates stress.  Acknowledge that the problem, condition, circumstance exists, because it does.  It is what has happened, what is, and all the worrying and stressing about it does not change it.  Glare at it, swear at it, cry over it, and then accept that that is what you own.

The magic happens after that – when you can look at those stress producing piles of crap and decide on a plan of action to eliminate or deal with them.

Can’t figure out a plan of action?  Another article in the Bug Free Mind says to sleep on it.  Just before falling asleep, ask the questions for which you have no answers.  “What can I do to improve my relationships?”  “How can I pay my bills?”  Ask, out loud or silently, just before you drift into slumber.

In the morning, in those first 10 – 20 minutes of arising, the answer(s) may be there.  If not, repeat until you get the answers.

Does it work?  It doesn’t hurt to try.  Aunty will try and let you know later.  Let Aunty know how it goes for you, mahalo.

[note from Aunty:  once you register for the free trial, a rather aggressive email campaign to get you to opt into the full program will begin.  Aunty’s suggestion is that you just ignore these for now, just get the free stuff, cruise through their website before signing up for anything more.  The good thing about their aggressive email campaign (done with excellence, btw) is how your affiliate relationship with them is supported automatically.]

Rich Dads say, so Aunty listens

2013-10-04_13-03-14Aunty’s favorite Rich Dad is Robert Kiyosaki.  He had this to say about the recent US government shutdown:

“The U.S. Government, due to partisan finger pointing and squabbling, has shut down.   Neither side could reach an agreement on a spending plan for the government.  Mail will still be delivered, the military will still be active, Congress will still get paid, but there are those many other services that will stop, affecting over 800,000 Americans – who will be out of work.  Focusing on what will or won’t change with the shutdown will not matter.   Instead, learn the lesson and message that lies within this mess.

This Government shutdown should ultimately remind us that we are in charge of our own financial future and we can’t depend on any government to take care of us.   Even if the shutdown is only temporary, even when they are “open for business,” the Government will still be faced with a mess, one that they created.   Their limiting solutions are:  a) pay the national debt, b) default on the debt, or c) continue with “Quantitative Easing” by printing more money. The problem is that any of these options will eventually lead to an economic crash.

And here lies the lesson that many can’t—or won’t—see:

Looking to the Government for financial solutions is like closing your eyes in traffic and hoping you don’t get hit.  You want to make sure that you and your family are prepared regardless of what happens with our economy or our government.  Understand what the rich already know and do what they do.  It’s never too late to get started.” 

Many people have their eyes closed and have not gotten hit – yet.  I truly hope they never do.  I hope that government subsidies for the needy never ends, that retirement benefits continue to be paid, that we do not encounter an economic crash, hyper-inflation, deflation, etc.

But, what if it does happen?

Are you doing what you need to do to safeguard, grow, be independent?  Aunty may not recommend that you run out and sign up for Rich Dad classes (see Aunty’s review), but if you do take control and start to save, invest, protect, and grow your own financial picture of well being, you will be better off – even if you count on your company’s or the government’s programs for retirement.  Start learning in chunks, little pieces, whatever way you can.  Robert Kiyosaki even has his own Rich Dad blog – highly recommended, and it’s free!

Do, or don’t?

Jeff Olson & AuntyJeff Olson, in an audio recording for Nerium distributors, talks about the price of neglect.  “The price of neglect is far more painful than the price of discipline.”

Please take the time to really think about this quote and actually weigh the consequences of inaction over action.  Candy Crush Saga or taking a seminar?

I consider Jeff Olson a Rich Dad because of his leadership, success, and his heart.  His book, The Slight Edge, has 10 simple rules that anyone can incorporate in their lives, to better their lives.

“Whether you think you can, or think you can’t – you’re right.”  Henry Ford

From time to time, I listen to words of wisdom from Bob Procter.  He also learns from “Rich Dads”, one of them being Napoleon Hill.  To quote Bob Procter:

In his best selling book, Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill wrote, “You will never have a definite purpose in life; you will never have self confidence; you will never have initiative and leadership unless you first create these qualities in your imagination and see yourself in possession of them.” He went on to say that, “… imagination is the most marvelous, miraculous, inconceivably powerful force the world has ever known.”

Have you ever thought of what your perfect life would be like?  Just that thought is the start of the process and fulfillment.  Write it down, draw it, dream board it, or post it here in a comment!  Brick by brick, step by step, build that perfect life.

Think it, learn it, do it

Sounds simple?  It really is.

Thinking it is the easiest part of it.  What does your ideal life look like?  Dream big.  Dream ENORMOUS!  Dream for real – do you REALLY want to have 15 cars that you won’t drive in a huge mansion that you get lost in?  Is your dream a nice little small house near a beach park with cash flowing rental real estate and a dividend paying stock portfolio with someone else who cooks and cleans for you?  (ahem, that’s also Aunty’s dream…)

Learning it means turning off the tv or limiting Candy Crush saga and picking up a book, a course, a seminar.  Be careful how much you pay – even though coaching gurus will tell you that they are worth every cent.  The world wide web has made it possible to advance your knowledge at your speed, whenever you want, however you want it, for free or for a fee.  Learn, digest, learn, digest.

Doing it – now this is what takes focus, commitment, and not listening to those who care about you.  I don’t know if Einstein would be considered a Rich Dad, but his definition of insanity was doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.  Walk a different path.  It will not be an easy one (price of discipline), but it sure beats going nowhere (price of neglect).

Mahalo Robert, Jeff, Henry, Bob, Napoleon, Albert

To all the Rich Dads that I know, and even the ones that I have yet to discover, mahalo.  If you know of any others, please share it with us in the comments section along with what a summary of what you have learned from them.  Also, please share your dreams – if not with Aunty, with somebody else.  Build your brick house just in case the straw houses crash.

Beginning “The Pledge”

IMG_0521Aunty recently joined the Wealth Builders Club (will give more details in a future post) and one of the bonuses of that program is getting Michael Masterson’s new book “The Pledge” in the mail.  I like getting a “real” book, especially if they are hardcover.  Somehow having pages to turn and paper to smell makes it of more value to me than an e-book.

I posted about Michael Masterson before – as the man with many names.  Regardless of how many identities he has had, he delivers, and delivers very very well.

Upon flipping through it to get a sense of what this book was about, a test on page 2 of the Introduction stopped me in my tracks and I knew it was something worth sharing.

The heading of the section was asking the reader how good is their life? and take this test.  The test/questions define the quality of your working life.  The questions are:

  1. What will you do?
  2. With whom?
  3. Where?

Simple questions which we already have the answers to right now.  You are already working or have a career or will embark on a career or path, you already have an employer, co-workers, clients, vendors, partners, and you already are somewhere.

Aunty then skipped to almost the last chapter to get the purpose of these questions.  You probably already know what the questions will evolve into:

  1. What would I really enjoy doing?
  2. Who would be the best person(s) to do it with?
  3. Where would I most want to do it?

This last set of questions do not only apply to your working life, but also your personal, retirement, and spiritual life.

Aunty isn’t the best of readers – finding time in the day to sit down and read is luxury time that I don’t have.  However, Jeff Olson in “The Slight Edge” prescribes reading just 10 pages of a good book per day.  Aunty can do that.  And when I am done with this excellent book, I’ll do a book report/review if it turns out to be as good as I think it will be.

 

Gavin Tsuda’s Tactics

Gavin’s 8 steps for small business leadership was in military speak.  He has used these steps in combat and still uses them today in all aspects of his life.  Planning parties, business objectives, investing – following these 8 steps is the recipe for success.  Although these seem like “duh, I know that already” because you think you know these steps, ask yourself if you actually implement them.  If you do, you are most likely to succeed.

Step 1 is Receive the Mission.  Decide what it is you want to do, what the problem is, what your objective is.  Think about the end state.  Remember METTTC – Mission, Enemy (competition), Terrain (area, geography, place), Troops (support people), Time, and Civil Considerations (customers).

Step 2 is Issue the Warning Order.  This is a pre-announcement to subordinates that something will be happening.

Step 3 is Make a Tentative Plan.  Have 3 possible plans or course of actions, apply the “what ifs” to each, choose the best one.

Step 4 is Start the Necessary Movement.  Give initial directions, start everyone on a process.  Whenever a task is given, it is very important that everyone knows the task and the purpose of the task.  That way your team understands why and can use their own initiative to achieve the result you are wanting to achieve.

Step 5 is Reconnoiter.  This is where you do research, checking things out, doing due diligence.  Whatever is discovered will either confirm or deny your initial assessment.

Step 6 is Complete the Plan.  Have all the pieces in play.  Designate the main effort – the person or team that will actually do the leading, and the others are support.  All orders start with “The purpose of the operation is…” then explain how.  State the end state – what you want to accomplish.

Step 7 is Issue the Order.  Give commands, write it out.

Step 8 is Supervise.  If any unforeseen problems occur, you need to be there.  Always have a contingency or back up plan.

After all this is done, you and your team will have charged up the hill and planted the flag in triumph.  Keep the plans and review them, reuse them if it worked.  Learn from the mistakes.

I can see why Gavin is so respected.  He carries himself with dignity and yet is humble.  If I were in his troop, I would charge when he gives the command.

Find your Focus

I have read or tried a lot of excellent techniques on time management, setting goals, achieving greatness, etc.  I start off in one direction, then get side tracked and move in another direction, and many times at the end of the day/week/month, I haven’t done much.  My problem was too much of everything.

Having too many wants, passions, concerns, goals, techniques will pull you in too many directions and your mind cannot handle the chaos of having too many things to do for too many projects.
A powerful way to “realize” the best direction to focus your energies, talents, drive, and resources is by ranking each want/goal/need on a scale of 1-10 in categories of passion, execution, and financial upside.

Being able to pinpoint where your focus should be will help you excel at one new business opportunity or income stream, rather than be mediocre at many.  This technique helps you narrow down all the choices you have and choose the direction best suited to YOU and YOUR GOALS.

Here is how it works:

Create a grid and list three or four (or all) of business opportunities, ventures, or current positions.  Keep these on the left.

Across the top list these three categories:
Passion / Execution (ease and probability of achieving)/ Financial Upside over 3 years (choose your own time frame)

Rank across each opportunity (1-10) in each category.  10 is the high number, i.e. high passion, highly achievable based on how much time and training you will need, high compensation.  Try not to use the same number ranking in any column.  Be true to yourself and rank honestly.

Complete all columns BEFORE you total the rankings in the last column.
Here’s a sample:

Opportunity                           Passion         Execution       Financial Upside       TOTAL

Real Estate Multi-Unit               6                     4                           9                               19
Real Estate single family            9                     9                           8                               26
Ebay sales                                      3                    10                          5                               18
Collectible sales                            4                     7                           4                               15
Tupperware sales                          1                     6                           3                              10
Clothing design                            10                    3                          2                               15
Karaoke singing                            2                     1                           0                                3

From these numbers, I can see that single family home real estate investing is most likely where I should direct my focus, and forget about entering a karaoke contest.  Although my passion is high for clothing design, the financial viability is low, the time commitment extremely high, so that goes on the back burner.

I hope this helps you find your compass setting.  Emotions, opportunities, and financial needs will change constantly.  Every once in a while, retake this “test” so you can stay on track.  I think it will help me stay the course too.

Mangoes and Lost Opportunity

2013-04-01_18-51-38We have a white pirie mango tree in our yard.  Our good friend Charin gave it to us as a sapling.  I waited for years for the little sapling to grow bigger and bigger, and one year it gave fruit!  It was delicious.  Juicy, sweet, smooth, ambrosia for the senses and tongue.

Unfortunately for any of our plants, one of my interests is bonsai trees.  I love the look of spreading branches, controlled growth and proportioned shapes.  Because of that, after a few piddly seasons of fruit, I decided to trim the mango tree into a pleasing shape that would allow for an open middle.  I removed all branches going straight up, trimmed off all branches that hung downward, and evened out the tree.  It looked quite nice!

However, the tree rebelled and stopped producing, much to the disappointment of Uncle and the kids, who were quick to blame me for not letting the tree grow and give fruit.

Just this year, my well shaped tree (imho) had a good crop.  I am in mango heaven.  I will hold off trimming the tree for as long as possible.  However, I do believe the tree has matured enough to stand for a good trimming and continue to fruit all season long.

Here is a lesson I would like to teach, if you don’t mind.

When our mango harvest was piddly – that is, I could count 12 mangoes in entirety on the tree and each was looked at on a daily basis – I longed for the day I could pick the perfectly ripe fruit off the tree and eat it.

The very first ripe mango was picked and lovingly brought into the house.  I smelled it, held it, and told the family we would eat it later when the time was right.  The second mango was ripe enough soon after, and I picked that one, put it out to show on the table, then put the first one in the refrigerator to keep it for a while.

This went on for about 2 weeks.  Meanwhile, the refrigerator had several ripe mangoes and we hadn’t cut and eaten any – I was saving it for the right time.

Uncle does not think like me.  One day, he peeled and sliced all the mangoes I had picked and stored for everyone to eat.  It was delicious, though most were over ripe because of the lapse of time from harvest to eating.  Many were too soft to slice, and a few were rotten and shriveled up from being in the refrigerator too long.

Because I was hoarding the mangoes instead of eating them right away, the majority of them were wasted.  The lesson learned is this:  Mangoes need to be picked and then eaten.  Waiting is wasting.  I now eat mango almost every day when it is in season, or I give the away to friends and family who appreciate them.

Here is the investing lesson that correlates to mango:  Learn and do your research (grow the tree, pick the ripe fruit), then do it (peel, slice, eat).  Jump in instead of waiting on the sidelines.

I meet a lot of people in investment classes that are learning as much as they can and researching this or that, but they are not investing.  They have great excuses.  I had a great excuse about not eating our mangoes – not the right time.  It was a bogus excuse and the cause of lost opportunity.

Please eat and enjoy your mangoes instead of putting them aside for a better time.  In your life, do something other than just watch on the sidelines or wait for the perfect time.  The time is now.  Get in the game to enjoy the victory and perfectly ripe delicious mangoes.

Here is a mentor minute from Raymond Aaron with the same message, though not about mangoes:  Achievements connected to Action.

Chicken or Egg?

Here’s a thought for you that can hopefully change your mindset about financial well being and action:

2013-03-31_18-09-30Imagine your savings, home equity, retirement funds as being eggs.  If you have your funds in stocks or mutual funds sitting in accounts, they are also eggs.  As a matter of fact, people actually call these their nest egg!  When you need to draw out from these eggs, you will have to crack them or take a bite (if they are hard boiled.)  You then end up with less egg in your nest of financial options.  This goes on until your nest egg is gone.

In money terms, you will be using up your funds each time you make a withdrawal unless your earnings or value increases by more than the amount withdrawn.  You might be able to survive if you have a huge amount of funds to last a good many years, or the amount you withdraw is piddly enough to never diminish the principal.

We have taken our egg (specifically our home equity) and bought a live chicken that lays eggs.  The eggs in our nest accumulate because the chicken keeps laying them eggs.  Now, when we need to draw out funds, we take it from the pile of eggs and leave the chicken alone.  We can even buy more chickens with our ever growing pile of eggs!

In money terms, we used our funds to buy an asset (investment property) that pays out cash flowing rents (eggs).  That cash flow pays our bills and will fund our retirement.  The asset (chicken) remains intact.

That is sweet chicken!

On Commitment

CIMG0510This was passed out to all in attendance at the first Rich Woman seminar held here in Hawaii by Kim Kiyosaki. Kim is a wonderful inspiration – she has built up her own real estate empire, is the beloved wife of Robert, and is really really nice, and rich!

Here it is:

On Commitment

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back. Always ineffectiveness.

Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans; that the moment one defiantly commits oneself, then providence moves too.

All sorts of things occur that would never otherwise have occurred.

A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamt would come his way.

I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets – “Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.”

– W.H. Murray, “The Story of Everest”

Do I hear an Amen to that?! Amen!