Aunty’s back with $30 more in her pocket, kinda.

welcome to VegasAunty just got back from a 4 day trip to Vegas – mostly to learn techniques and projects from the best of the best in the polymer clay world at the 10th annual Clay Carnival headed by my buddy Donna Kato.  It was so wonderful to see old friends there and meet new ones, and get to play with clay!!

Aunty combined this trip with business – attending a Nerium Real Results Party hosted by Teuila in her beautiful new home and meeting up with Martin Fajardo, the premiere bestest real estate and property manager in Las Vegas.  [note:  this trip was a tax writeoff, the entire airfare and hotel bill because crafting, Nerium, and real estate are Aunty’s business ventures.]

Although this was a busyness trip, Aunty had 3 opportunities to donate money in Vegas, i.e. gamble.

Aunty’s Lessons about Gambling

The first opportunity was at the Main Street Casino in Downtown Las Vegas.  Aces with No Faces is a 25¢ machine that pays you for aces if you don’t have any picture cards in the dealt hand, and also for poker hands after you change and draw cards.  I bugged Donna about it and she plopped in $50, lost about $3, and decided to cash out.

The problem with this machine is that it cashes out with quarters dropping out into a trough – cling, clang, bang, bang! until all 185 quarters were dispensed, and we scooped them up into a plastic bucket.  I gave Donna $47 for the contents of her bucket and told her I would play on her machine.  After all,  I was the one who raved about it and insisted she play.

The lesson of Sitting

Aunty sat and put in one quarter and pushed spin, another quarter and pushed spin, very very occasionally winning a quarter, sometimes winning a few credits, but nothing big was happening.  Meanwhile the nice formerly-from-Kauai lady next to me was getting 4 of a kinds and scratch cards, and the one on the other side of me was getting 4 of a kinds and some triple aces with no faces and I was getting a bit hu-hu (steamed) because not much was happening for me on “my” machine.

My new found neighboring machine friend told me that I have to play max bet, which is 5 quarters, so I started doing that, but still, only dinky hands with a few aces.  Playing max bets might mean you get bigger payoffs but it also means your money doesn’t last as long, so after about an hour or two of plopping in quarters and using up the measly credits that I had acquired, I stood up and talked story with my machine neighbor because I was wiped out and lost my entire $47.

One man swoops in, sits on “my” chair and “ka-ching, ka-ching”, starts winning with 4 of a kinds and some aces without faces in a matter of minutes!  “Eh!”, I said, “I warmed that machine up for you!”

You know, that buggah never even say thanks.  How rude.

So, the lesson Aunty learned is to sit little bit longer on a machine if it didn’t pay out, or else, just cash in the bucket of quarters.

No craps

After that, Aunty didn’t feel so good and wasn’t in the mood for craps.  Our party headed back to The Quad – the revamped old Imperial Palace on the Strip where we were staying, and Aunty found a nice Pai Gow table.

Lesson of the Candy

Pai Gow is Aunty’s favorite table game.  It is played with 7 dealt cards and you make 2 hands, one with 2 cards, and the other with 5 cards.  The dealer also has 7 cards and plays 2 hands.  The goal of the game is to beat both of the dealer’s hands for a winning payoff, or at least one of them for a push, or tie.  The bonus bet will payoff if you have a triples or better hand regardless of how well or poorly you did against the dealer.

Unlike Black Jack (apologies to Black Jack players), Pai Gow people are usually a friendlier bunch because we all have a more communal wish that the dealer has Pai Gow – both hands being poor – no pairs, nothing but a bunch of cards that can only boast of a high card.  Players’s actions do not affect the outcome of anyone else’s chances.  The dealer is our common enemy.  Our neighbors on the table become fellow supporters and cheer leaders.

Power in little gifts

Aunty always brings Hawaiian goodies in the form of little packages of macadamia nuts in bars or smaller snack packs.  Aunty passed everyone on the Pai Gow table a pack of pistachio crunch (ono!), including the dealer.  Aunty lost the first few games, and was going to leave the table but there was a dealer change.  The new dealer saw the pistachio crunch package in the departing dealer’s hand and said that she wanted one too.

“Only if you are good to us” is what we told her.

And you know what?  She dealt us rather decent hands, and a pack of pistachio nuts was tossed to her.  Every few deals, when we needed boosting, another pack of pistachio would be tossed to her.  We struck a deal that if everyone lost on the table (kinda rare), then she would have to give a pack back.  This only happened twice.

Meanwhile, my neighbors were winning pretty good hands and I had some decent ones, but not terrific.

That’s when Aunty brought out the bomb – Hawaiian Host chocolate macadamia nut 2 piece packs that Costco sells.  “Really good hands, please!” and a toss to the dealer, who by now had a pile of pistachio nut packs and a few chips for tips.

“Ka Pow!”  Aunty had 2 sets of 3 of a kind, which meant winning the bonus spot and beating the dealer very easily.  This happened again, the very next hand!  Everyone else was also getting pretty good hands and won too!  By the end of the hour (Aunty had to leave since classes began early the next day), Aunty had made back her losses, and even after tips and drink tips, left the table breaking even, making up for the earlier losses.  The dealer was very happy with a pile of goodies.

The lesson here is to purposefully give candy to the dealer and make friends with your neighbors.  It creates a synergy of something bordering love, and brings out winning blessings for everyone.

The lesson of taking the small victory

The flight back to Honolulu was delayed, and it was really boring waiting at the gates, so Aunty sat at a Wheel of Fortune 25¢ machine, put in $20, and played for a little while, alternating single credit bets with max bets.  Pay attention to what the max bet is on the machines – some were 5 credits, and some were 3.  Better to play the machines that have 3 credit max (Aunty found out the fast way to lose is 5 credit machines).

The loudest machine in the place is the Wheel of Fortune machine because when you earn the right to spin the wheel, it sounds like a big bunch of people are shouting, “WHEEL….. OF……. FORTUNE!!!”,  the wheel turns and the clicker clicks until it stops on a number, the bigger the number the better because that is how many credits you will get.  After one of those, Aunty was winning, and cashed out her big $38 ticket!

However, that was not a rounded off number, so Aunty got brave and now that $20 had turned into $38, the $1 Wheel of Fortune machine was played.  After a few spins (alternating between single credit and max credit bets because Aunty is a bit chicken), Aunty got another chance to spin the “WHEEL……OF……..FORTUNE!!!”   Then, Aunty cashed out $50, so the final outcome of the trip was a very sweet $30 ($50 win – $20 initial buy in).  Could Aunty have won more playing the $1 machine since Aunty now had more ammo?  Perhaps, perhaps, but I will never know.

The lesson here is, be happy with small victories.  They are twice as nice as a small loss.

As always, the best part of any trip is coming home and sleeping on our own bed.  Funny though, how I can still hear people shouting, “WHEEL…..OF…….FORTUNE!!!”  It is pleasantly haunting, kinda.

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Closing Cycles = Wowza!

2013-08-19_10-34-36Aunty was going to title this latest post, “Closing Cycles = Zounds!” but changed it after Aunty looked up the word.  “Zounds” is an abbreviated version of “God’s wounds”, or a mild oath.  Not very pleasant stuff.   “Wowza” a better word in this situation, interpreted as surprisingly amazing or oh my gosh.

In this weekend’s seminar with Meir Ezra (review coming soon), we were constantly challenged to define the meaning of words – simple words that we all thought we knew.  Truth, Ethics, Statistics, Product, Spirit, Money, and on and on.  It was amazing how most of us were not able to verbalize definitions, or had a very wrong definition of a word in the data base of our brain.  An example:  do you know the meaning of the word “peruse?”  Using the Webster dictionary clarifies a lot of misunderstood words.

Another powerful insight that Aunty got from this weekend’s seminar was the cycle of action:  Start, Change, Stop.

I had heard it before:  everything in life has a beginning, an evolution, and an end.  Everything we do has the same cycle.  Every task, idea, feeling has that same cycle.  Example:  if someone (or you) does something that causes you to resent them (the start), the feeling in that relationship simmers, bothers, bugs you (the change), until you can either forgive or let go (the stop).  Open cycles of action are when you are stuck in the change phase – the simmering, the bothering, the bugging.

Aunty has a LOT of open cycles in her life

Because of this, Aunty feels stressed.  Uncle has far less, and thus, he is a very happy man.  The more open cycles we have, the more problems we have.

One of the exercises from Meir’s first workshop was to write down a list of all the open cycles in our lives.  In our jobs, we have daily, weekly cycles of actions that we must complete, i.e. send out an email to employees re: reduction in hours (start), think about, get clarification, push it on the side, or format the email  (change), send the email (stop).  Students have assignments (start), they do research, start typing, leave it until the last minute (change), they turn in their assignments or don’t turn in their assignments and get an “F” (stop).

Aunty did the exercise, but poorly and without intention.  It was not until this morning, when Aunty awoke, that Aunty really got it.

You see, there was a set of invoices that needed to be recalculated and go out to a customer for Uncle’s business.  Because it was a bit of a headache to deal with, Aunty buried it under a pile of papers.  This was an open cycle.  Granted, it was a small open cycle, but it was open and causing a problem  – we were not getting paid.  It was also causing Aunty to have anxiety because they had to be processed.

Aunty’s Wowza

You may think, “duh”, Aunty should just finish up those invoices and send them out.  Well, that makes you far smarter than Aunty because Aunty just finally realized that and took 10 minutes to complete the task, address it and pop it in the mail.

It felt SO good to close that paper sized cycle!!

That small cycle closing made Aunty feel terrific, and Aunty now has a lot more locomotive steam to tackle her other open cycles, one by one.  Some of them are also small (pack bag for trip), some are huge (downsize belongings).  Some are relationships – big constant weights on Aunty that will take some time to clear, but just by writing them down, the problem starts to go away.

Many cycles are not problems because Aunty is great at closing them out, such as paying off credit card balances every month before the due date.  The difference is that Aunty can give those a “Wowza!” each time they are done.  Closing open cycles makes the problem go away.

Your open cycles

Look at your problems, your hurts, the things that cause you stress in your life, and find their open cycles.  Sometimes it is a word said in anger that keeps eating away at your insides, sometimes it is an idea that you can’t stop thinking about.

Write down as many open cycles that you have and work on one of them at a time.

Turn your personal “zounds” into closed cycles and let Aunty know so that Aunty can “Wowza” you!!

Another opportunity to learn from a Master Mentor

2013-08-11_16-10-50Before I post the details, Aunty will copy recent comments that readers left after my initial review of Meir Ezra’s workshop.

Suze wrote:  Meir Ezra is a con artist whose agenda is to infiltrate small business and convert them to Scientology. Standard 101 for the Church. It starts off with with good content and get’s weirder and weirder as you go on, all while you are spending all this money to into an endless pit. The church of Scientology will suck your money dry. They make it seem like they care but in the end they all they care is about the money. No one does anything for free just to help people,, everyone has an agenda.

And Dave wrote:  You are promoting Scientology, look it up. This is 110% a scam and Meir Ezra is sucking you in, I know I attended the Wise International which is owed by the Church of Scientology. Sounds like you are all drinking the magic juice!

So, Aunty did what Aunty does best – google search and ask questions.  First person I asked was HIREI President and organizer of the annual Hawaii Wealth Summits, Paul Xavier.  Paul is a straight shooter, sometimes a bit too direct and a bit too sharp, but sharp and direct answers from a straight shooter have value.  Rather bluntly, I asked how Meir Ezra can be a Jew and a Scientologist at the same time.  I forget his exact answer, but it was something about taking what works from Scientology and not compromising one’s own beliefs.

In another google search, Aunty discovered that Meir has been involved in Scientology since 1993.  “I don’t really know if I would describe myself as a ‘Scientologist,'” he says, “but I have been applying the technology of Scientology to my everyday life, so if that makes me a Scientologist, I guess I am.”   A businessman with several companies both here and around the world, Ezra says that he has used Hubbard’s teachings for his business models and claims that this is what has helped him become so successful.  (for the complete text about Scientology in Israel, here is the <link> to the rather fascinating 2006 Jeruselum Post article.)

How dangerous can learning to improve be, how scam-ful can a 110% scam be, and on the other hand, how dangerous is it to not learn, or to believe that everything is a scam?

To go, or not to go

Aunty has heard Meir Ezra speak, twice.  On both occasions, Aunty has been impressed.  Impressed with the knowledge that is shared, impressed with the practicality and simplicity of the lessons, impressed with the person, Meir Ezra.  The man that he is onstage is the same as the man that he is offstage.  Is that important?  To Aunty, it is.

So, even with the dire warnings of Dave and Suze (above), Aunty will be attending, and even recommending this upcoming workshop in Honolulu on August 17 and 18 from 9:00 am – 6:00 pm at the Hyatt Place Waikiki (small hotel at corner of Paokalani and Kuhio Avenues) because Meir is an awesome teacher, and the opportunity costs just $99.

Suze writes that it starts off with good content.  That is what I am there for – the best content that I can use, presented in one of the best ways that I can understand.

Not to be contrary

I do appreciate the concerns of Dave and Suze, and thanked them for it.  I will watch what I drink, and if it gets weird, then I consider myself forewarned, and perhaps start looking at donning an aluminum foil hat to limit mind control.

However, Aunty believes that learning never ends, and sometimes going down paths that are unpopular or out of one’s comfort zone produces unexpected wonderful results, and missing them will keep you on the path and results that you are already on.

With tin foil hat or Saran wrap

One of my favorite transition images is that of Kathy Bates as Evelyn Couch enveloped in only Saran wrap to greet her bored husband at the door.  The scene is from the movie, “Fried Green Tomatoes”.   Ninny Threadgoode becomes Evelyn’s mentor and friend through her narration of the life and loves of Idgie Threadgoode.

From that friendship, frustrated and bumbling Evelyn Couch transforms into a confident, joyful woman.

Saran wrap or tin foil hat?  Transformation or limited transmissions?  For now, Aunty’s choice is Saran wrap (as Uncle does the happy dance).  Aluminum foil in the kitchen drawer just in case it is needed.

Hope to see you there.  TAWANDA!!!

The Genius Tour, August 17 & 18, Hyatt Place Waikiki Beach Hotel (Paokalani and Kuhio), 9:00 am – 6:00 pm daily.

Laters, alligators….

DSC01498Uncle always looked forward to male companionship as he had a brew or two outside after a hard day’s work, so Buddy was Uncle’s best companion and listener since our household consists of a preponderance of females.

Buddy, a labrador/hound mix, was one of two family dogs, the other being Gracie, a female grey brindle pitbull.  Anyone who has or loves dogs knows how wonderful they are because of how they make us feel.  Special.

One of the biggest drawbacks of owning a dog is that they grow old and pass away too quickly, leaving us with a void in our lives that is haunted with the sound of rustling in the brush or their pantings and tail thumps.

Yesterday, Buddy was found lying on his side and breathing very heavily, and not able to walk.  His back legs would get crisscrossed, and he would lose his balance and fall heavily down.  After a quick google search about crisscrossed back legs, Degenerative Myelopathy turned up as the most likely culprit, and the prognosis was dismal, irreversible.

After a day of walking Buddy around with an improvised belly sling and a night of convulsions and cries, we knew that we had to put Buddy to sleep, asap.  In the morning, we called the great folks over at Island Veterinary Care, and under the very caring and calming hands of Dr. Lau, Buddy was euthanized at home.

Since this is a blog to share lessons, this is a post about the disposing of our family pet with dignity, and not breaking the bank.

The final farewell

The Hawaiian Humane Society at 2700 Waialae Avenue will accept animals – euthanize (you will not be present) and cremate them for $60 when you drop them off.  For $225 drop off, they will euthanize and arrange private cremation so you can pick up the ashes later.

The City and County of Honolulu’s bulk pick up division (phone directory) will pick up dead animals for free, though not immediately.  We did consider this option, but could not detach ourselves enough from our memories of Buddy enough to consign him to a final farewell such as this.

For about $240 plus pick up fees, the Oahu Pet Crematory will retrieve your animal from your veterinarian and/or your place, cremate, and have the ashes ready for you at your convenience.  These fine folk also do the cremations for the Hawaiian Humane Society.

Our house call for Dr. Lau to euthanize Buddy at home was $457.  It could have been less had we taken him into the office, but I am glad we opted to be with Buddy in his familiar settings and watch him leave this world with such peace.  After that, we loaded Buddy’s body into the car, and booked the private cremation services at the Hawaiian Humane Society.

The reality of not having Buddy hit me this afternoon, after I directed Gracie to the backyard and latched the gate.  I usually say to the dogs, “Laters, alligators!”  However, today, with just Gracie to address, it was, “Later, alligator.”

To all the missing alligators out there:  Aloha oe, until we meet again.

Diamond Head in the Desert!

Being greeted at LAS

Being greeted at LAS

Aunty went to Vegas last week for her very first Road Trip!  260 miles across the Mohaje Desert took us 4 hours on highways to Los Angeles in a U-Haul truck.  It was a blessing to have #2 daughter meet and greet Aunty at the airport, and even better, to DRIVE the 260 miles that had me a bit apprehensive because of the heat (100• in the shade!) and Uncle’s dire warnings of snakes, heat stroke, getting stuck, etc.

Uncle is a very nice man, but he does tend to find the worse case scenario for any new situation – just in case we weren’t worried.

Thankfully, it was an uneventful road trip with light traffic and rather interesting scenery of expanses of land, dry brush, distant mountains and huge trucks that, for the most part, limited themselves to the right lane of Highway I-15.  Aunty would get excited whenever one of those big trucks would try to overtake other big trucks.  They reminded me of some of the scenes in Smokey and the Bandit, and wished I had one of those horn honkers that those drivers would pull as they passed each other, and was a bit disappointed that none of them honked as they passed.  But then, if they had, Aunty might have pee’d in her pants, and there was NO bathroom for miles and miles.

A little past halfway, after going up, over, and down two big mountains followed by flat land with beautiful, hazy, almost ethereal horizons of distant floating horizons, Aunty saw Diamond Head!!  It was on the left – don’t ask me north, south, east or west.  If you ask me for specific directions, I would say that it was in the opposite direction of Ewa, lol.  Aunty got a picture of it through the dirty windshield.  That was pretty cool, don’tcha think?

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A look-alike Diamond Head in the Mojave Desert

 

No Money Down?

2013-07-21_18-22-39Aunty has never done a no money down deal.  Why?  Because it is very much harder and more sinuous (having many curves and turns) to do than a deal with money.

Most people that go to investing events and courses have a common refrain – “I want to invest but I don’t have any money.”  The lure of being able to swing an income generating deal without any money is strong, and the projections and testimonies of others that have found wealth doing this type of deals is very appealing to new wannabe investors that have no money.

Why do they have no money?

Each person has a different answer, but the fact that they are attending investing events is one of the first steps on their path to wealth.  It gives them an edge over all the other people who don’t have money and expect to somehow survive in the state of barely surviving without trying to improve their situation.

However, paying money to a guru with empty guarantees in order to learn “no money down” strategies gets them that much poorer or in debt, and less able invest.  Students are taught assignments, wholesaling, subject tos, purchases using other people’s money, forming partnerships, finding angel investors, borrowing from friends and family, etc.

What it will take to do a no money down deal

It will take time, discipline and determination.  Successful ones are those who are willing to put all their efforts into finding those rare deals and seeing them to their fruitful end over and above a lot of their competition.  Sometimes, in spite of great effort, some are not so successful, and as a result, have ruined relationships and potential huge liabilities for promises made and not kept in a deal gone bad.  Market conditions can be unpredictable, numbers can be skewed, trust can be broken in a heartbeat, and you could be in worse financial condition than when you started with nothing.

Very persuasive sales presentations will make it sound easy, that there are thousands and thousand of deals with many different approaches, and that a lot of people with money are chomping at the bit to invest with anyone with a deal.  Maybe there are a lot of people sitting on money, but if it were Aunty, she would rather invest it herself, or get into a deal that had a huge guarantee of payoff and security.

Using other people’s money or credit also means that your profit is smaller, depending on how the deal is structured.

What to do instead of no money down?

Use discipline and determination to save up some money.  This will take patience.  2 rules for wealth are spend less and earn more.  Sounds simple, but simple is the usually the best solution.

Once you earn more, you can owe less, and own more.  Meir Ezra gave that same advice for people who get a windfall of $1,000,000.  The first step, he said, was to economize.  The next was to pay off every single debt.  After that, figure out what brings income to you, and increase it.

Use your money to make money.  Rather than be the one that goes around finding people to borrow from, become a source that lends out money at rates that will compound your cash.  It starts off slow and then starts to snowball.  Be VERY careful of who you lend to, and what it is for.  Even a seemingly no-brainer of a good deal can go awry, and if it does, you want to benefit from that rather than be the loser.

In any case…

If you are in a deal that you are putting together, or a deal that you are participating in, make sure there is good communication.

Aunty and Uncle were in a no-brainer of a deal with a few other investors, and everyone was getting a bit hu-hu (angry) because the controlling managing partner was not keeping all of the players informed.  For awhile, it seemed like the deal was a pretty bad one because of poor accounting and a void of communication, and Aunty was getting riled up by Uncle who was getting riled up by some of the other investors asking him what was going on?  It turns out that everything was going fine, the project was a cash flowing solid piece of investment, and we were all on the same page of understanding once a meeting was held.  The rebellious confusion that was starting to brew could have been avoided in entirety had we all been communicated to, on a regular basis from the very beginning.

Vice versa, if you are the one putting together a deal, communicate, communicate, communicate.  The less money you have in the deal, the more you owe honesty and communication to your source of funds.

One day

Some people can easily put out a deal, or even just an idea of a deal, and have people waiting in line to invest with them.  If you are in that position, then congratulations to you!  That is a position that you need to earn by winning the trust of your fellow investors.  When you are at that point, always put their best interests before yours.  Under promise and over deliver.

But not for us

For Uncle and Aunty, we are like the turtle – slow but steady, using our own money and our own credit to get bank loans.  Fast and furious rabbits may reach the finish line faster using other investors’ money, but they may also fail faster and more furiously.

Aunty was like the impatient rabbit in her younger days.  Over the course of my rather long life,  I have “invested” in ways that were more like gambling than income producing.  I never sat down to add up all our losses because I knew it would be an ugly number.  It took years of going to trainings, listening to webinars, subscribing to gurus programs and getting lessons from the school of hard knocks before I learned better discipline.

One of the greatest virtues that I have only just recently gained is that of patience.  I used to always look for the spectacular and instant gains.  This resulted in lost opportunities to take decent profit because of greed or jump into bad deals.  During the last 4 years, I began investing in rental real estate, learned about options trading the safer way, and began building our retirement accounts with steady investment opportunities.

It felt excruciatingly slow.  No home runs – just a base hit here and a base hit there.  Occasional set backs were because of my old habits of shooting for the big win, and those losses were made more real by having them cut into the slow and steady gains that were being made.  Because of my new found virtue of patience, our up coming retirement is now very possible, and the wonderful and beautiful compounding effect is beginning to kick in!!  We are now on track to our retirement income and lifestyle goals.

If you have no money

Work a few more hours, get a part time job, find ways to generate additional income, read up and implement recommendations on how to save money.  One of the best pieces of advice that I have come across is by Mark Ford of the Palm Beach Letter.  If you subscribe (subscription is free!), you will be able to access the excellent article that teaches about 3 buckets for wealth – spending, saving, investing.  It is called “The Secret of the Golden Buckets” and it is truly golden advice for anyone starting off.

If you have money

Invest wisely, and grow your money.   Of ALL the newsletters, programs, events that I have taken, the Palm Beach Wealth Builder’s Club ($1250, refundable) is the platinum standard of step by step do-able lessons that are presented methodically and deliciously.  Rental real estate,  income for life premium, living rich, retiring next year, extra income project, how to start a business, and more.  The main contributor is Mark Ford, and he lives what he preaches, very successfully.

The main thing is that you take action.  To quote John Greenleaf Whittier, “For all sad words of tongue and pen, the saddest are these, “It might have been.”

Aunty in the market

Aunty will be sitting her booth at the Hawaii All Collectors Show this Friday and Saturday.  Show hours are Friday 3:00 pm – 9:00 pm and Saturday 10:00 am – 6 pm at the Blaisdell Exhibition Hall.  This is one of Aunty’s favorite places to attend.  Every booth has treasures or memories from one’s past.  Bargains on treasures that will make your kids’ eyes roll.

If you do attend, please visit Aunty in booth #232 on Kahala Avenue with signage:  Honolulu Aunty.

Hawaii All Collectors Show, Hawaii’s Oldest Antique Show!

Ask for “Aunty’s discount” and whatever is Aunty’s stuff, you get 20% off!  On Saturday after 3:00 pm, you can get 50% off!  You will be helping Aunty to de-access and Uncle will be very happy to have less “treasures” in the house.

[Update after the show:  Aunty had very aggressive pricing on Saturday because it was the last day of the show, and the more that got sold meant less to pack up or see next year.  The best part about giving away great stuff at bargain prices was the bragging rights that could follow at home for the savvy shoppers as they open up their packages and show what they bought for such a deal!

Mahalo to my customers and to ilene and Wayne of ukulele.com for putting on this awesome annual collectors show!!]

Notes from Genius Tour – Meir Ezra

Genius Tour June 14, 2013 Meir Ezra

Meir Ezra WOWed all of us.  His presentation was filled with so many golden nuggets of information, splattered with exercises of both the mind and body, as well as some pretty funny dirty jokes in his rather strong and charming Israeli accent.  When he comes to town again (he LOVES Hawaii!!), please go.  [Update:  Meir will be teaching again on August 17 and 18 at the Hyatt Place.  To sign up, go to The Genius Tour and choose Hawaii.]

Here are the notes that I took from this intense 2 day seminar.  Most of them are stand alone ideas that deserve time to absorb:

What do you expect from the seminar? If you don’t know what you expect, how will you know that you arrived there? We must define what we want.

Essence of genius is simplicity. Know the definition of words.

A professional is one who thinks it is simple.

What is truth? Exact time, place, form and event. Does not contain continuation.  A Lie is the opposite time, place, form and event, and continues.

People are ethically good. We are the worst judge of ourselves, so when we do something bad, we feel bad. When we do something good, we feel good.

Must understand the mind – everything you deal with are minds.

How do you find a purpose, how do you find what your purpose is?  It is your Fuel of the soul.  What is your purpose?  Write down your purpose.  Look up the definition of purpose.

Ideas are conveyed by sentences.  Sentences are conveyed by words or symbols. If you do not understand the sentence it is because there is a word or words that you do not know in the sentence.  If you do not understand the sentences, you will not get the idea. Your IQ is defined by the number of WRONG words you know.  Increase the number of words that you do know, and you increase your IQ.

People become criminal because of the number of words that they don’t understand. A good man comes across a word or symbol that he does not understand, which causes confusion, which causes sins. Once you go past a misunderstood word without figuring out what it means, your understanding goes away. The more words you do not understand, the stupider you become. Learn definitions of words from the dictionary.

The first dictionary was written by Webster in order to empower people to understand words so they have power and cannot be cheated.

Ethics – ability of the individual to uphold the moral code.

Justice – when an individual violates the moral code, the group puts force to get the individual to be ethical.

Moral code – a set of standards, laws, or rules that we hold ourselves to, based on our own group consensus.

If you have a problem, look at all the data of the problem in order to find a solution. For a problem to be a problem, it must contain a lie.  If something becomes complex, it contains a lie. Find the lie and you will solve the problem. Simple brings the result immediately. (Task:  change IX to 6 using just one continuous line *see solution at end)

An authority is someone who knows good P.R. Look at their result, by their actions, you can judge how they are.

Insanity is not being there – being in the past when you need to be in the present.

Spirit – this thing that knows. We need to clear false data.

Love is the flow of admiration and sympathy. Love is very close to hate, flipping very fast. Love can be used to control and cage. Use love to take the person to full potential, not cage or control.

The view point that you take defines your life. If you think you can, you can. If you think you cannot, you cannot. 99% of the people do not try, are not willing to show up.

Clever = ability to recognize truth. Smallest number in the universe is 2 = force, counterforce.

Greatness is ability to continue to love man despite all invitation to do otherwise. If you can continue to love them, no sorrow or pain. Handle the spirit, not the physical.

 

 BREAK – after we came back, Meir had us do exercises – squat against wall, push ups for men

Prerequisite for success is to become unserious, charging toward your purpose and be sure of your success. Success is ability to experience motion, as well as the ability to control motion.

What is seriousness – when interest is intense because of penalty. Attention is stuck in the past. I better do that or else something will happen.  When you are serious, you get slow and stuck on what you do not want – one always gets what his attention is on.  You get what you validate.  Look at the problem from an unserious point of view.

Child rearing. If they are doing something bad, ignore it (non validation). Every child has a job that they have to do – it is an agreement that they help – more than just chores, it is their job and responsibility. Let your children make their own decisions in order to complete their jobs.

Competence is the ability to do what you do when you are doing it.

Any area where you are serious about you are also incompetent. The past influences your present behavior to such a degree that if you are not aware of it, you cannot control it. A being causes his own feeling. Smile when you feel lousy. Force yourself to be the cause. After an impact you make a decsion – a resolution to act in a certain way “I will never do that again” = no-no because you have taken away your free will.

Whenever we do something wrong, rather than find or make excuses of why we did that wrong deed, just be able to admit that we are wrong.

Serious people are not serious because of what is happening now, but because of what happened in the past. To combat, look at data in front of you, not what happened.  Evaluate with what is in front of you – look at everything as “interesting”.

When you are serious about something in your life, you fail.  Measure by statistics, not by feelings.

When you make a decision, you feel better. Crisis is a moment of decision. People never lose their ability, what you lose is your willingness. Easy to ignite the willingness by igniting your purpose.

The less decisive you are the more emotionally bankrupt you are.  Stress is the sum of all indecisions.

 

Cycle of action = Start, Change, Stop.

When you start something, you also need to have closure. Exercise = make a list of ALL the open cycles that we have in our life. Do a target list with closure date, and take one or two a day. Stress is only the sum of all your open cycles.

Unluckiness is too many open cycles of action. Close the cycles.

If you have a past time in your life that “money is bad”, and you change your thinking and decide that you want money, you must go back to the exact time, place, form and event that you formed your original idea and eliminate it – it is not your current truth. Anything that you know about, you can control it.

Example with daughter relationship: find the point in time that caused the problem. The problem is that you want to be right all the time, so people do not change because in order to change, you must be able to admit you are wrong. Learn correct data to make decisions to fix problems.

Production is basis of morale.

Knowledge, Responsibility, Control work together.

Fear – a state of imperception, almost always true that it doesn’t exist. Getting info from what is in your past, not the present.

Power is speed of particle flow.

A person becomes old when they think they can become hurt. Being careful = being serious = slow.

When you want cooperation, align their purposes with yours.

Force does not bring solution.

When you are in a painful or negative situation, you are missing tools. You are good in one area, but the other 6 areas you are not good at.

Coaching – what do you do, what do you want, what else do you want.  Quantify with result of result and time.  Define targets.

Training is key for success = getting better results with less effort. If no training = growing upset. Beginning of any upset is an incomplete cycle of action. Usually upset because not willing to communicate or look at the problem. Get the ability to look.

 

AFTER LUNCH BREAK

 

Difference between a professional and an amateur

An amateur

thinks things are complicated and unpredictable

happy with good enough

frustrated – he is the victim, bad luck, etc

operates from fear (state of imperception – what you do not see, feel, hear), and tries to win

avoids risk – does not confront. When you don’t confront, it becomes a lie, it stays

loves to be comfortable

focus on the past (insanity-stuck on the past)

being the problem – everything is a problem

they know what they know and accept that life is like that.

focuses on present time and future while he ignores the past being the solution –

A professional

knows things are simple and can predict the results and time

happy with perfection only, no plan B, only plan A

effective, he is the cause of the good AND the bad – trusting your decision

confident and knows he will win.

Manages risk – confronts.

Ignores current comfort level for future, higher comfort level (price of neglect is higher than the price of discipline)

Professionals learn and improve continuously.

 

Mind thinking

The past is always different from the future. We learn continuously to learn from our past, then we go forward knowing, and then inventing new truths.

Exercise to show the mind. Close eyes, imagine a cat, point to where the cat is, open eyes. We all pointed to out side of ourselves, not our brains.  Thus, our mind is not our brain, but it is a series of pictures, millions of pictures that we have taken over our lifetime(s).  Our brain takes 20 pictures per second.  The purpose of our mind is to keep us safe.  Sometimes, it goes coo-coo or on auto pilot and thus we do things that are not good for us out of fear or past conditioning.

Logical thinking is ability to see similar things as similar, different things asdifferent, identical things as identical.

Analytical is ability to take data and compute with it.

 

TONES (Aunty thinks this was one of the most powerful and useful knowledge of the seminar)

Did you ever try to communicate to a person and communicating to that person was like hitting your head on the wall.

The emotional tone scale – 24 tones on a scale from 0 – 4.0.  People have 2 tones: chronic and social.  The people with tones on the upper scale are more productive and those on the lower scale will try to bring you down.

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The WORSE tone is 1.1 = covert hostility (hostile but they don’t want you to know about it)  These are those people who Meir calls vampires.  They smile at you but stab you in the back.  If you have people like this in your life, get away, stay away from them, for they are the source of many of your problems, downfall.  Traits of the Covert Hostiles:

  1. speaks in generality (always, everyone),
  2. finds the wrong source of the problem, makes other people wrong
  3. cannot complete cycles of action, blaming others for incompletion
  4. doesn’t improve
  5. has friends and associates who do not succeed in life
  6. are never sick mentally – only their children or their friends are sick
  7. when act as relay, will only relay bad news
  8. no sense of ownership, will take your things

(in Meir’s Ethics and Finance class – he will teach how to recognize these vampires)

People are operate at their own certain tone will not be able to communicate with others on different tones. Must be at same tone level or close to the same tone.  If different levels of tone, lower tone people will want to take everyone down.

If a person is below antagonism (low tone), you cannot sell them.  Low tone people will find anything wrong with everything.

To “read” the tone of the person, listen to their communication delay or lag. If there is communication lag, the person is in low tone, i.e. saying “I don’t know” or “I’ll get back to you”, or not answering the question.

To sell someone, you must be in the same tone as them to reach them, and bring them up to a higher tone.

Marketing

Most business do not need branding, they need marketing that sells whatever you are selling. To sell, survey your customers find out what they want.

Example of veterinarian’s business. Found out that people are upset about fleas and ticks, so put ad “FLEAS FLEAS FLEAS TICK TICKS  We kill them all. Call 1 800 kill fleas”.  Give mystery, and they will call.

Example of Sausage business: did survey: 2 most important: size of cases & grills well. Changed size of boxes, put “grills well” on box. New box sold 68 times more sausages than the standard. Tone of people who barbeque – very high – enthusiastic – used bright colors.

Use written, verbal surveys of the marketplace. If you know the tone scale, know the survey results, know the business organization.

 

DAY 2

Showed us pictures and asked what was wrong. Many of us invented what we thought we saw. We see a part of what is front of us and we assume the whole. When we assume, we are incorrect. To be able to observe without assumption is to be able to see what is really there. When we assume, we can be cheated. Our responses are automatic, but we must get off of our automatic responses and assumptions, but must raise our observational skills and really look.

All the pictures that Meir showed had nothing that measured data, such as scoreboard, control panels.

In business, you must have measurements at every time period of every department, every personnel.

 Start – Change – Stop  A robot does the tasks assigned to it. When you tell a person what to do and they do it, they become robots.

When you communicate what it is you want to have (the Stop), and they figure out what to do, and they become the person you need.

 Start is what you are/mind

 Change is the doing/body

 Stop is the having/product

A product is an exchange, and exchange is a product. Product is a completed thing that has an exchange value within or outside the activity. It is not a product unless it has been exchanged.

 

Exchange is giving something for something else.

Exchange – four types

  1. criminal exchange – stealing. Giving, giving, giving to friends and you don’t demand anything back is a criminal exchange.
  2. Partial exchange – promise something but don’t deliver exactly what is agreed upon
  3. fair exchange – payment for what is agreed upon
  4. exchange in abundance – give more than what was agreed – they will give you something

Exchange either flows or it is stuck. You can improve exchange in any one or more of these ways:

1 .quantity

2. quality

3. give more time

4. extras

 

DRILL write a list of everyone that you are in an exchange relationship with and look at what type of exchange you have with them.

Make a table:  list of people, what condition of exchange they are in, what am I going to do.

Look over the list, and give in abundance, i.e. thank you letter, gift, acknowledgement,

 

What is the product?

Must be able to identify the product in order to be successful. The product must be defined. Only if you can define the product can you measure it. If you cannot see or define what the product is, then you cannot achieve it. When you do not succeed, it is because your ability to name/define the product is missing. You can measure only if you define what the product is..

 

A product of a teacher = student duplicating the materials taught and uses it successfully to improve their lives and the lives of others bringing about a new civilization.  A good teacher cares more about the students than cares about the money. “You are important to me” is what reaches people.  Rather than “I am interesting” people want to know that you are interested in them.  To be interested, you need to be a professional and not an amateur.

A product of a business owner = viable expanding, prosperous organization with increasing money to owner’s reserves and a very well paid staff.

A product of an army = an opponent with a more ameniable state of mind.

A product of a husband and wife is a spouse who maximizes their potential and is succeeding in their life. Should not be caging of the other person.

 

Business Structures

People typically do a business structure with the Director on the top with different departments under it such as marketing, management, sales, accounting, legal.

Meir’s structure is a very LONG big chart of columns that is on a continuum – a cylindrical chart, like a barrel.  Steve Jobs got from E. Hubbard the cylindrical chart of 7 areas and Apple took off.

Every company needs 7 areas, even if the company is just one person.  The area that is the lowest defines our overall product. Shows what they need to produce and how to measure.

Everyone pushes to same direction so the energy is output, not input = no fighting.

7 areas of the cylindrical chart:

  1. Executive
  2. Human Resource
  3. Sales
  4. Treasury
  5. Technical
  6. Qualitycontrol/correction division (corrected organization and its people) income/# of people
  7. New public

 

Success definition: Achieving the postulated (self created truth) results or more of the desirable results compared to an earlier time. You become the CAUSE of changes, not the EFFECT.

An individual who is not working in life to remedy or to make better the actual conditions which he finds around him is not liable to succeed. And if you want a good definition of success, it would just be that: a person who can look around him and see what has to be done, what has to be remedied, what’s actual, and then actually can do and does do something about it. And that person is about eighty-four light-years above normal.

How does one know if he has achieved more, less or the same of the things wanted? By using MEASUREMENTS.   Every area of our life is measurable.

Without measurement:

  1. one cannot know who won
  2. one cannot know if he failed or succeeded,
  3. one cannot know what needs to be corrected
  4. once cannot know if change is needed
  5. one does not know what is right and what is wrong
  6. you can not have management even if one measures but doesn’t inspect, one cannot manage. It is here that we have operating on opinions and rumors vs. operating on facts, or you are guessing.

The universe is divided in two:

  1. those things that can be measured and;
  2. those things that cannot be measured.

In business, only one thing cannot be measured:  that which has not been done or produced.

A person who resists measurements:  1. is too unorganized and so has no time for anything and is already non productive, or,  2. is producing nothing of value.

Why do we need to measure our success? Without measurements we will make mistakes. Balance sheets are for the government – to show how much taxes we need to pay. They are not a true picture of success. Many businesses that measure with profit and loss statements and balance sheets show profit, but the owner has nothing in their account.  Meir’s system is a different way of measurements, formulas, specific steps to give an accurate picture of how the business is doing, and how to improve production and profit.

 

STATISTICS

The purpose of statistics is to maintain accurate and continuous visual (graphed) records of the activities of the organization for the use of the executives and board of directors in planning future activities and analyzing past and current activities. To help the growth of the organization by maintaining a historical record of that growth.

Get your statistics, and you will be able to improve.

From info, put into graphs, look at the statistics.  You cannot get the true picture just looking at numbers.  You get the picture when it has been put into a visual picture, i.e., a graph line.

 

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Statistics behave 6 ways. Conditions are states of operation. Each condition has specific steps, formulas in order to improve.

  1. Non Existence – brand new, bankrupt (very low graph)
  2. TheDanger – moving but not in control (not organized yet)
  3. Emergency – handle it and go to normal, don’t handle, can go down
  4. Normal – exact formula
  5. Affluence (very fast up)
  6. Power (affluence goes to new normal)

Affluence is most dangerous stage because many people cannot handle it.  Most people will spend and lose their money when and if they win a million dollars.  If you win a million dollars, first economize, then you pay down every possible bill, invest in what already makes income for you, find a new way of affluence and continue.  This then becomes Power.

Beyond Non Existence is a liability, not helpful, but bad , then enemy, then treason (betrayal after trust), then confusion.

You inherit the condition that you fail to assign or deal with.  In an emergency situation, you must promote promote promote. Use what worked in the past. Change your operating basis, get the employees working. Economize, find the cause of your problem.

Other ways for a business to succeed other than the org. chart, statistics, ethics and money, finance: 1) no ethics, cheating, 2) product is amazing (like Google), 3) unbelievable founder (like Steve Jobs).

When the explanation for lack of success does not push the statistics up, the explanation is incorrect.

 

The Source of Delays

Normally, the CEO shoots orders, the VP level is shocked/bypassed, and the staff does policy strategy from direct orders from the CEO. The CEO gets non compliance, leads to emergencies, leads the manager to want to know everything, leads the manager to stop the flow of production. Happening because of lack of control of the manager who blocks production, tries to recreate by themselves.

The inability to correctly manage workloads by staff and executives is the main reason for delays. The solution is to have a tool to manage the workload.

The purpose of time management is efficiency. Efficiency is minimum effort for maximum result.

Your power is defined by how fast you are. The more efficient you become, the more powerful you will be. The more delays, the less power you have. People delay because they do not want to confront. When you introduce a delay, you always bring about a problem.

The prosperity of a business is directly proportional to the speed of the flow of its particles.

To prosper, service must be as close to instant as possible. Remove delays.

Anything that stops or delays the flow of a business or delays or puts a customer or product on WAIT is an enemy of that business.

Speed of service is of comparable magnitude to quality of service, and where exaggerated ideas of quality exist they must become secondary to speed. Quantity before Quality.

 DRILL:  Write down all the places in your business where speed is slow – it can be customer service, issuing of quote or invoice, answering the phone, replying to emails, etc.

 Your homework is: improve the speed of all the slow points.

Why are you not as efficient as you should be?  Executives and staff lacking workable management tools. People don’t like a job if it has been assigned to them and they haven’t agreed to it.  Important to make agreements that all parties accept and agree to.

 

CONFIDENCE

Money is an idea backed by confidence. If you can create confidence, you will have money.

Idea – a formulated thought or opinion

Backed – to support by material or moral assistance or assured.

Confidence – trustful; without fear or suspicion, faith that one will act in the right, proper or effective way.

How do you get confidence? Meir drew a triangle. These are the component parts of Understanding.  Life is about understanding. Only life trusts life.

1st point is Affinity – your level on the tone scale, a scale of emotion, closeness to each other.

2nd point is Reality – level of agreement (I like this, you like this too)

3rd point is Communication – having your ideas accepted.

Confidence is reality. If you create enough agreements, you will have a sale. You need 650 agreements to get a deal.

To be successful in sales, you must learn to create reality. There is exact technology on how to get reality, confidence.

 

The next time that Meir comes to Hawaii, he will be doing a 2 day workshop for us, spending one day on Businesses and the next day on Parent Academy. His son Michael is a fine example of great parenting, as Meir, very proudly, showed us his graduation ceremony/speech to his fellow schoolmates at a school in Florida, with a curriculum program that you could only pass with 100%.

It was an awesome weekend.  Time literally flew and Aunty’s brain felt like it was exploding in different directions.  Wow.  Hope you all can be there next time.

*2 solutions to make IX = 6 with one continuous line .  1.  Add a “S” = SIX, or 2. Add a numeric 6 = IX6 = 6.

 

 

Hanapa’a! and Crushing it!

Well, yesterday was Friday, and pal Fay texted me, “It’s Friday, Candy Crush day!!!” and indeed it was!  I dropped off Uncle at his secret fishing spot and then started playing Candy Crush Saga with my 5 lives, alternating it with my iPad Candy Crush app that also had 5 lives.  Cleared through 2 levels, which is a very good evening because sometimes one can get stuck for days – and in Aunty’s case because of only playing on Fridays, it will be weeks.  Aunty was very happy, crushing those candies!

Then I get the call from Uncle to pick him up, and he caught 3 oio (3, 4, and 8 pounders!) for fish cake or poke and one toau ~1.5 pounds for steaming.  He was a happy man.

Now the big question, who’s going to clean the fish?  My vote is for the fisherman who caught them.

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Crushing Candy Crush Saga

2013-06-16_14-03-10Aunty has a confession to make.  About a month ago, under a fake name (Honolulu Sally), Aunty began to play a very fun game on Facebook (is also a free app) called Candy Crush Saga.  It is something like Bejeweled Blitz, clearing rows or columns with matching jewels or candies, although Bejeweled Blitz was actually more fun because each week you were privy to a scoreboard against your friends, each game only lasted a minute, and you could play until the rooster crowed or the cows came home (unlimited).

These games are addicting, and Aunty was an easy target.

Aunty is a compulsively addictive challenged individual who thrives and loves competition, so online games and Aunty are a bad combination.

Over 3 years ago, Aunty made a pact with God and totally gave up playing Bejeweled Blitz (it was for a very very important prayer and person), and over the past couple of years, Aunty has made other pacts with God to give up a couple of other online games that consumed Aunty’s time and focus.  Each time a pact was made, Aunty totally abandoned the specific game, because when you make a pact, you must honor it, and a pact with God is one that is of the highest priority and responsibility.

So, when Aunty “discovered” Candy Crush Saga 4 weeks ago, it was on a part time basis, playing it sometimes, and stopping after the 5 lives are used up (it gets fully reloaded after a few hours).  At first it seemed too easy and simple, and then clearing coconuts and cherries with jelly got harder and Aunty went to a support group site to find friends that would give lives and tickets in order to proceed to the next level.

That was when Aunty got hooked, and began playing it, giving lives, receiving lives, night and day.  Paperwork and messes began piling up, laundry wasn’t done, dinner was often forgotten until later in the evening, and bedtime was pushed back past midnight, resulting in a bigger mess and less sleep.

Usually around this point in the game(s), is when a crisis occurs and Aunty makes a pact with God, to give up the game as penance or payment if God would please please please help in a situation.

However, just yesterday, after an especially busy week of friends visiting, an awesome 2 day workshop, company bills, invoices, and payments almost due, preparing a house for tenants and an especially fun evening of trading off extra moves and lives with a complete stranger on Candy Crush Saga, Aunty knew something HAD to give, and a brilliant solution came in.

It was almost as if Aunty could hear the one note chorus of angels and the strum of harp strings.

The solution was to give up Candy Crush Saga on all days and nights, except for Friday!!  Okay, you might think that was nothing to write home about, but for Aunty, it is a beautiful wonderful way to deal with her addiction – by putting a workable control on it and going about doing what needs to be done without total withdrawal.

Aunty is so happy now!  No need to feel guilty or bad about wasting time all week long anymore, or having to make a pact with God.  Uncle usually goes fishing on Friday nights, and Aunty will be crushing candies!  The rest of the week, Aunty will get back in the groove.  More posts and updates – such as a review of last weekend’s Genius Tour workshop by the fantastic Meir Ezra.

If you see Uncle and I together, ask him how fishing is, but please be mum about Candy Crush – since Uncle thinks that I am always hard at work in the office, and it is a good way for him to think.

[Update:  Aunty has changed the day of Candy Crush to Thursdays because of Aunty’s neck.  I go to see Doc Breuwet on Fridays for my upper cervical adjustment, and then go home and play Candy Crush Saga until the stroke of midnight.  My neck and shoulders feel awful with throbbing pain for a couple of days and I know it is because of the poor posture stuck in suspense as I play for hours.  So now, if I play on Thursdays and get adjusted on Fridays, the whole week will be pain free and the adjustment will “take”.  Well, that’s the theory I am sticking with for now….]